Monday, March 16, 2020

Food I can't forget...

There was a hole in the wall Thai restaurant in Ottawa, and it served a clear soup with tiny mushrooms floating in it.  I went in on a whim and sat alone when that was a daring-young-woman thing to do.  I still remember it.

A chain restaurant where I discovered, (at maybe eight?) that you could order Earl Grey tea in a restaurant.   Game. Changer.

This strange diner that served pizza with butter chicken on it in an age when spinach on pizzas was really avant-garde.  It's possible that was the first time I'd eaten butter chicken.

The Guinness I drank in a pub in West Halton, England.   I ordered it because I didn't know the name of another beer.  You could practically make a meal out of it, I discovered.

A strange breakfast place near my university that made a green lentil salad.  I've searched high and low for a recipe for that salad.   The owners were Middle Eastern and apparently thought green lentils a satisfying breakfast food.  They were correct.

Years later, same city, a now-long-closed Eastern European deli and their pickled mushroom salad.  Oh my gosh, that salad.

Another city, this time with Vietnamese pho and deep fried spring rolls.  I always go with A.  She gets the chicken, a medium bowl.  I get the rare beef, a large.  We bicker over who gets the bill and have the same debate each time - should we try something new or stick with what we love?  I've never tried the new.

Out for a meal with the people who worked with me.  It was a restaurant that served Portuguese peri-peri chicken.  It remains the best chicken I've ever eaten.

The take-out Starbucks tea I ordered when I went to browse in the bookstore as an angsty teenager just trying to get out of the house.  Tazo Passion.  Sour, fruity and floral and it made me cough.

That bakery with that bread, the one my parents used to buy.  We ate it right out of the paper bag, smeared with butter.  I can taste it.

That other bread, the European one, with all the fruit in it.  It sold out so fast you could never buy it.

A wealthy friend's mother comes to town and insists on taking us for supper.  I have no idea where to suggest but finally come up with the name of a monstrously expensive trendy new sushi restaurant.   She cavalierly sweeps us off.  We eat $200 worth of sushi.  I've never had anything like it before.

I'm lonely at university and my father comes to town for a business meeting and takes me for supper at a very old-school steakhouse with tuxedoed waiters and old white politicians in kind candlelight and heavy red drapes.  I order the capon.

Another solo meal, in Toronto's Chinatown.   A bustling restaurant,  a menu entirely in Chinese.  I just point to something and when the plate comes it is tiny, tiny birds, deep fried.

My boyfriend is house-sitting, I think, the only thing I really remember is the duck.  Another Asian marketplace and it's roasted with the head still on.  We buy a whole one.  "This is not going to be enough duck." I tell him.

My parents leave me alone at home.  I'm maybe 17.  They tell me I can have friends over for supper.  I dig through the freezer and find tiny little lamb chops.  I've never used the gas grill outside by myself but I figure it out.  A bunch of 17 year olds sit around the backyard eating teeny lamb chops.

My grandmother is dying and we go in November to celebrate Christmas.   I'm very young, but the Greek restaurant has this baklava, and I am shocked no one has ever explained how fantastic this stuff is.  It drips with honey.

I'm married and there's this place across from where I get off the Subway from work.  They serve forgettable food and an astronomical baked rice pudding covered in creme bruleé.

We find a Turkish flatbread pizza place where you can get a fried egg on top and a heaping pile of raw onions, parsley and tomato on the side.

Family comes to visit and we buy chicken sausages at the Italian grocer.  We cook them over a fire in the backyard.  They might be the best sausages I've ever eaten.

The weird chili wings with a sort of milky sauce.  I don't understand why they are good, but they are good.

The children stand around me as I feed them escargot in garlic butter out of the cast iron fry pan.  Even when they find out what the escargot are, we can't stop eating them.

It's the end of high school and everything is bubble tea and gelato.  You get the bubble tea at these odd internet cafes and the gelato at the place downtown.

Someone suggests breakfast.  I order the fruit plate and it comes as an elaborate peacock style platter of carved fruits.

My soon to be husband and his parents go with me to a place called House of Lasagna.  It revolutionizes lasagna for me and I'm not kidding.

Long before we were anything at all, this cute guy and I sit together at a work function and slide food onto each other's plates.  He takes my baby carrots and I eat his shrimp.  Twenty years later he eats his own shrimp. 😊

We're in Montreal and we have to visit Schwartz's Deli.  It's great, but I'm upset because they don't give you mustard when you buy a few pounds of smoked meat and a loaf of bread.  You want me to eat it plain!?!  My fiancé runs across the street and goes to a grocery store to buy me some and gets yelled at by a homeless man.

We are at the homemade ice cream place and my sister in law says "oh, I just saw someone go by with ginger ice cream!" This necessitates some rummaging in the store fridge and finding the last pint.  We stand outside with a couple of spoons and break into $9 worth of ginger ice cream.

A small town, and sour cream peach pie.

A gas station, and this amazing bottled water that tastes like iceburgs.

My parents complain that I drink an unreasonable amount of milk.  It occurs to me that I could just...buy my own milk.  The thrill of drinking all the milk I care to purchase.

First year university and there is a kitchen.  I make up a dish called 'a sliced eggplant fried in tonnes of oil and covered in this Greek style spice from the store'.  I feel brilliant and eat a lot of eggplant.

The Mennonites make jars of pickled eggs and we sit in the car and eat them.  Also huge hunks of dried summer sausage and buns made with tomato paste.  It's the taste of summer.

I'm learning how to can and I make jardiniere for the first time.  It's the best thing ever and I eat every single jar.

My mother and I are standing in a basement apartment and trying to recreate this lime ginger syrup a friend has gone on and on about.  When we figure it out I realize I can never again not drink this in soda water.

A friend introduces me to Chicken Marbella and it is what I make for guests for years.



Wednesday, March 11, 2020

Simplified Homeschool - Morning Time.

I went to a homeschool meet-up today and found myself chatting with other parents about our methods of schooling.  As I was explaining our morning time it struck me that I wasn't being terribly clear, so I thought I'd re-visit my explanation, with a bit more success.

Morning Time is what I call our joint lessons first thing in the day.  This includes our memory work, Bible study and prayer, work with a globe, history read alouds, music, etc.  Honestly, all sorts of things.  I think I've read poetry during this time, screened a video, read Shakespeare, pulled out a giant floor map, completed puzzles,  listened to a piece of classical music, and done a math activity.  At it's most basic, this is just our 'all together' time for whatever we're able to do at the same time.

My children are 9, 7 and 5, so obviously there are some differences in ability,  which doesn't really matter with morning time because I make sure to have age appropriate expectations in place.  For example, I read aloud about the ancient Greeks.  The 9yo is able to discuss what he heard and sit for the reading.   The 7yo is able to sit for the 5 minutes and fidget with something.   The 5yo is able to be a not-disruptive presence in the room doing her own thing.

All of the lessons are very fast and repeated often.  We might recite a memorized poem all the time as we learn it, then less frequently as we get more comfortable,  and then periodically once it is learned.

A question I was asked today was what, specifically,  we are learning in morning time.  Okay, this is pretty fluid, but off the top of my head right now we are...

Reviewing days of the week, months of the year, names and order of the seasons.  (for the sake of the 5yo, essentially. )
Memorizing The Lord's Prayer  (done, but we recite periodically).
Memorizing the books of the Old Testament  (we are done up to Song of Songs).
Reciting the provinces of Canada west to east.
Singing and commiting a hymn to memory - Be Thou My Vision.
Also a folk song - Land of the Silver Birch.
Also the National Anthem.
Memorizing Psalm 23 (we're halfway done)
Reading books together - Story of the World volume 2, various other fiction and non-fiction.
The oldest 2 often read a chapter of a short biography out loud to me.
We might do an English lesson together, reviewing a grammar rule or a phonetic rule or something.
I read a verse of Mark, and we stop whenever we reach something to talk about.  Plus whatever rabbit trails we encounter.
Sometimes we do a group math lesson, often involving going outside.
Sometimes we do a group nature study lesson.
Sometimes we do a group art lesson.

I'm sure there's more, but you get the idea.  Stuff we do together!

Morning time sometimes progresses to a group activity such as going to swimming lessons, going to the church together to practice the piano, visiting the library, etc.

A great book on morning time is this one:


Now, how long does this all take?  Truthfully, the time we spend sitting together is possibly 30-45 minutes, and covers our bible, history,  geography,  etc.  It really isn't that much time.

HOW, in real time, does morning time play out?  I call everyone into the livingroom and make sure they are all sitting more than arms reach from each other, and also that they have whatever activities they need with them.  We open with a very short prayer, and then launch into memory work.  After we've done al, of that, we're sometimes just done, but often we're still good for a while longer so I will start running through readings.   Maybe a chapter of Story of the World will suddenly launch us into a conversation about calligraphy and I remember I picked up a book recently about that very topic and we follow a rabbit trail for a while.  Sometimes we bring out a dictionary to look up a word, or bring over a tablet to Google an answer to someone's question.  Occasionally I have to send a child to fetch a different reference book or a map from another room, but we try to stay together and focused in one room to avoid wandering.   Usually after 45 minutes we're ready for a break, but every once in a while I end up transitioning into our fiction read alouds.  When we're finished with morning time, that's it - I don't test and I don't do homework type stuff.

The rest of school is individual.

So there you go!  Morning time!

Sunday, March 1, 2020

Reading Notes - February 2020

This month's reading notes!  A mixed bag, as usual.

Finished

Finished
Finished
Three of Alan Bradley's Flavia De Luce mysteries this month.  I've heard several people now mention this series as their 'fluffy' or 'light' reading, and I'd just like to know why that is.  I mean, certainly, this isn't Moby Dick or something,  but gosh mysteries seem to get the short end of the stick, don't they?  Anyway, Flavia is 12ish, she's brilliant,  the stories are generally well thought out without a lot of gratuitous violence or anything, they are a little. ..atmospheric, perhaps.   And I like them.  Although I will say the second title up there is the first de Luce mystery where I totally knew what was happening from very early on, and the third in the list was a very lackluster mystery altogether.  I hope this isn't an indication that the author is slipping.

Finished 
I am probably the last person I know to read this.  For a while, The Guernsey Literary And Potato Peel Pie Society was everywhere.  And I can remember a friend rapsodizing about it.  But, well, it looked hokey to me so I just didn't read it.  I was wrong.   Imagine that.  It's like Helene Hanff became a British war correspondent!  A bit of romance,  a bit of humanity,  a 'brave European ladies against the Nazis' book that doesn't venture into alllll the tropes you know so well.  Very much one for the keep shelf.

In progress 
I like travel memoirs!  I like Agatha Christie!  I like trains!  And I like this!  So often these following -in-the-footsteps -of-the-greats kind of travelogues fall too far to either side - all about the initial traveler,  or all about the current traveler,  but this one balanced well between the two.  I never felt like this was a thinly veiled treatise on the history of the Orient Express under the guise of a Christie biography,  and I never thought 'I cannot read one more paragraph about Agatha's failed marriage'.  A good balance, is what I'm saying.  Also, I love it when books intersect in interesting ways with other books, which is part of my fascination with the novels of Barbara Pym.  But I especially love oddities of marginalia and on the inside back cover of this book a previous owner had scribbled:

Minaret of Samaria
P.325
P.100
P.117
Ziggurot
Nebuchanezzar
Babylon

I mean.  I love it.  So of course I stopped and looked it up and one of the page references mentions...Paul Theroux.   Everyone knows how I feel about Whiny Theroux.   I mean Paul.  Cough.  But honestly I was just thinking that this cover looked like Theroux's Great Railway Bazaar.  It just made me happy.  Worlds colliding!

Finished
Billed as a 'coming-of-age' memoir,  which I find annoying.  Because, ugh, coming of age implies the recognition of impending adulthood, a certain embracing of the future, a series of changes in maturity,  perhaps,  but not...not drinking in Australia,  really.  It was a fluffy travel memoir of a very privileged, twenty-one year old, middle class, debt-free college graduate who has always been a people pleaser and decides to strike out on her own and explore the world.  Which she does by waitressing jobs for a few months in a few countries,  and drinking with other young, aimless backpackers.  I mean, there was a very funny bit about a friend's incredibly strange Polish boyfriend.  And there wasn't a lot of pointless sex.  So it had that going for it.  By the end, though, she's just annoying - borrowing money from her mother because she doesn't have enough to keep travelling, and then spending it on yet more tours and wine and what have you.  Dismissing all the concerns of people who love her.  Literally dismissing her parents over and over again, while still needing them for even the most basic of adult tasks, like going to a doctor!  Gah, I'm too old for this crap.

Finished 
I picked this short little novel up on a whim at a second hand shop and it was a tiny, perfect gem of fiction.  I got so engrossed in the story of Lydia, the sister of American impressionist artist Mary Cassatt, that I finished it on the way home.  My edition was slightly different from the picture, and was so well bound it really added to the luxery of the story.  Every character, every scene, every sentence, was so expertly crafted it seemed like the story sprang fully formed from the mind of a poet.

In Progress  
I'm too sick to adequately discuss my thoughts about this Ferguson book.  So far, two things come to mind.

1) He is really unhappy about being called a gaijin.
2) I think that I've finally figured out the problem with this author.   He continues talking about every topic for just a few too many paragraphs.


Saturday, February 29, 2020

Book Review - Milly-Molly-Mandy



Milly-Molly-Mandy by Joyce Lankester Brisley.
read to the 7yo and 5yo

This book (an older, hardcover edition.  The stories are all out in a nice paperback boxed set as well) is split into individual stories centered around Millicent Margaret Amanda (Milly-Molly-Mandy) who is growing up in England sometime around the 1920s.  The stories are sweet and wholesome but also engaging, interesting,  and an appealing look at a past time.  I've read this compilation a few times now to the 7yo, but took it out again for the benefit of the 5yo.  Both girls looked forward to their bedtime chapter, and honestly I did too.  And the little historical oddities were great conversation starters.  The girls wanted to know what 'bread and dripping' was, what an anvil was used for, why Milly-Molly-Mandy was growing cress and so on.  I should probably just buy them all.

Tuesday, February 11, 2020

Book Review - The Vanderbeekers of 141st Street


 The Vanderbeekers of 141st Street by Karina Yan Glaser

Read to the 9yo, 7yo and 5yo.

I was hoping for 'updated Elizabeth Enright' vibes, and that's what we got!  The characters were spunky and unique, the biracial element was a unifying force, and the children were generally kind, untidy, loving, interesting, creative little weirdos.  Just like my kids.  Everything moved very swiftly along in terms of plot (this was not  a challenging or time intensive read At. All.), chapters were short, attitudes were pretty good,  parents not the loveable buffoons they are so often portrayed as these days, all in all a good read aloud.  A few negatives, easily glossed over: a child character says "freakin'" in conversation,  as in 'she has to practice violin in the freakin' basement'.  Not really a problem,  I just didn't read it, but it seemed unnecessary.  The elderly upstairs neighbour is referred to dismissively as 'the Beiderman', even after parents instruct the children not to call him that.  Some children argue with other children, words like 'shut up' are used.  Really, nothing untoward.

Think...The Saturdays mixed with the Clementine books, and taken down a few reading levels.   I will def. read another in the series and probably buy the paperbacks for my soon-to-be 8yo to read.

Friday, February 7, 2020

7 Quick Takes

1.  Let it be known that I've finally figured out, in a rush of understanding,  that 'gormless' means a particularly dopey kind of stupid.  Because I am the sort of person who yells at a child to "get me the thing...gah!  You know, the, the thing in the thing!  IT'S PURPLE!!!", I function almost entirely via a complicated set of rules and mnemonic devices.  Did you know, for example, that 'etymology ' and 'entomology ' can be differentiated because in Tolkien the Ents were alive and entomology is the study of insects, which are alive?  Although likely not as many as were alive before the entomologists got their hands on them.  Etymology is the study of words, btw, but that's not particularly important because really, if you say etymology in most circles you either have a group of people who already know what you're talking about, and would be just as happy if you said something else, or a group of people who have no idea what you're talking about and then you sound like a real drip.  Whereas entomology is a very useful word and you can use it all the time.   "Boy, that's a dishy entomologist on the BBC, eh?"  See?  Just used it.

2.  Last Friday we visited my mother.  My mother is ill, and it is not the sort of ill that will get better or go away or anything like that,  but is the sort of ill that just is, now.  It is reality.  I've become a little obsessed with taking my mother on walks and asking her if she remembers various pleasant memories from my childhood and I tend to wrack my brain coming up with them.  Did you remember a particular walk we used to take, or a funny thing a long dead childhood pet did, or a specific flower that grew in the garden.  And while this exercise seems somewhat pointless (she always smiles and says yes) it has brought up in my mind how very many happy little memories I contain.  So many.  And I believe this is God's grace to me, right now, that my mother will not get better, but that I will be blessed with a fountain of happy things to remind her of.  A fountain that will never run dry.

3) I suppose it's official that we have a dog.  The dog was dog-sat, then the dog stayed, as dogs often do.  Mind you, my husband and I are a pretty soft touch for such a disagreeable looking duo.  Actually,  that's not fair, we have a certain panache.   Under kind lighting and on a good hair day I can manage Brittle '50s Italian Housewife, although my standard look is a little more Especially Poor Oxford Undergrad circa 1918.  But often with pants.  My husband,  on the other hand, is 100% Absent-minded Professor.   Except, and I take full blame for this, in a giant, oversized pea-green outdoorsman coat made out if what appears to be sail cloth.  I bought him the coat to replace the coat he refused to part with, lovingly nicknamed 'the homeless person coat', which sported a matted fake fur trimmed hood,  a partially ripped off pocket, and a giant ink stain.  In my defense the ruse worked and the homeless person coat, which no self-respecting displaced individual would willingly wear, went to the dump.  And now he wears the huge green tarp everywhere in blatant disregard for style,  fashion, social acceptibility and the formality of the occasion.   It doesn't bother me, except for when he broke the zipper and hired the town seamstress to fix it and she inserted a zipper that only zipped down to the end but then wouldn't detach, which meant my husband  (who refused to complain or ask for it to be fixed) just stepped into the coat, and then zipped it up.  Challenging to do in dress clothes, as you might imagine.   Not that he'd care if you stared.  But then one day a few weeks ago the zipper just unzipped all the way, just like a normal zipper!  After five years of stepping into the coat!  Will wonders never cease.

4)  The dog, anyway, likes to always be touching me.  She likes to sit beside me and put a paw on my foot, or follow me from room to room.  Since the cat also does this, the children have taken to referring to 'the parade',  which is me, two animals, three children, and the weight of my to-do list.

5)  Last week my husband's aunt passed away, which is sad.  She was the last of that clan and had been unwell for quite a long time, but none of that really matters a bit in the end when you're mourning death.  However, the opportunity rose for me to send flowers to the funeral,  and I have to admit I haven't really had to do this before.  Usually we're either performing the funeral or we're there because the person was close family,  but I have never sent flowers in lieu of my presence before, and I have to say it was a mixed experience.   For one thing, if you haven't got at least $100 don't even bother.  Plus, the arrangements are almost all hideous.   And forgive me, but M. was a vibrant,  creative,  interesting person and I'm not sending a big ol' pile of baby pink carnations.  So I ended up picking an arrangement of shocking orange 'Asiatic Lilies' which honestly appear to be what we know as 'ditch lilies' that grow in such profusion here that some people mow them down.  I'm not sure if this will cause some talk because I don't think this is likely an acceptable funeral arrangement,  but fortunately I think M. would have liked it so I don't care.

6)  No, I tried, but I have to be petty and show you some of these horrible arrangements because I'm not a nice person...

This one:
This one:



This one looks like a hand reaching up from behind a very yellow bunch of flowers:

This ridiculous nonsense here:

This calla lily stuffed in a jam jar costs well over $100

7) Over the shrieks of my children, I have cleaned out the toy chest, and thrown away many toys, and now I'm going to go lie down.

Thursday, February 6, 2020

A Learningish Sort Of Day

Feb. 5th, 2020.

The children were watching TinTin with David when I woke up late.  Breakfast, dressing people, etc., and we likely started school around 10:30 or so.

10:30 - 11:15 Morning Time!

We reviewed our memory work first.  The Lord's Prayer, the first two verses of Psalm 23, the provinces of Canada, and the books of the Old Testament up to Song of Songs.  With YouTube accompaniment we sang our study hymn, Be Thou My Vision, and our current folk song, Land of the Silver Birch.  I read several pages of our current poetry book and then we broke off into individual groups.  The 5yo and I worked on a reading lesson together while the 7yo and 9yo went off to read their narration chapters.

11:15 - 11:30

I needed to get myself ready for the day still, which I did while everyone shrieked and ran around or something.  I don't remember.  I think possibly the 9yo was still working on assigned reading.  Before we left for piano the 7yo gave me her narration.

11:30 - 12:30

The oldest two came with me to the church while David came home to stay with the youngest, so that we could practice piano.  They each got about 30 minutes of guided practice with me.

12:30 - 1:00

All three kids helped clean up and we ate lunch.

1:00 - 1:45

The kids were done lunch, and I sat with the 9yo and worked through 2 math lessons and then set him problems to work.  The younger 2 did math at the kitchen table from their workbooks.  Then everyone got kicked outside to play.  I went out too, with the dog, and cleaned up the yard a bit.  It was really cold, so we didn't have much of an 'outside time', and no one was up for a walk.

1:45 - 2:45

The 7yo and 5yo and I made paper beads at the table and had some interesting conversation about all sorts of things.  We made tea and drank it out of fancy cups.  The 9yo spent an hour reading on the sofa.

2:45 - ?

The 9yo finished his reading and did a page of copywork.   David came home again from the church to work here while I took the dog for a walk.  While he was home, the two youngest played with play dough.   I think there was a cartoon on but no one liked it or something.

4:00ish - 6:00ish

Ah, the witching hour.  I got home from walking the dog, got one child through a shower, checked math work, fed people...you know the drill.

6:00 onwards

David left again for evening meetings.  The kids got ready for bed and then the 7yo and 5yo listened to a chapter of their read-aloud.  When they were asleep I read a chapter and a half of the 9yo's bedtime read to him, and that was that!